Posted: 18th April 2014 by Glenda and Jack in failure, friends
Tags: attitude, focus
Of course I am not talking about the clothes I have on. Though I am glad I’m not showing this in SKYPE or face-to-face or you would agree that I am horribly dressed–but hey, I’ve not had all my cups of coffee yet, then I’ll get dressed!
I’m talking about the words I have been wearing for many months–maybe longer? I am such a person who believes that the words you use help create your own attitude–as well as attitudes of those people around you. Yet, I have slipped back into negative routines of focus: what I haven’t finished, what needs to be done, what I’m not doing, what I should be doing, lamenting how lazy I am, or whining about silly things that don’t amount to anything in the whole scheme of life.
I was thinking about the life-giving weekend this is (Easter weekend) and how so many of us have such a world of choices. I’ve missed all my blogs as much as if they are dear friends. I haven’t written on any of them in almost three years. When I started working on my Master’s Degree in Psychology in 2011, I just left all my “dear friends” behind. But, I finished my Master’s in July of 2013, and here it is 2014.
I am going to get reacquainted with my “dear friends” again–I will post things I accomplish. That might simply be organizing the plethora of shoes thrown into the bottom of my closet or finishing an article and getting it sent or taking something fun or needed to someone or helping out with a volunteer project or making a nice dinner for my hubby. By shifting my focus on what I am doing instead of what I’m not doing, it creates a shift in attitude. What a person focuses on is like falling dominos: whether it is positive or negative, it simply keeps on going.
Today: I researched how to post on my blogs (I had forgotten). I am also going to attempt the pile of shoes in my closet, but even if I only get half of them organized, at least I have gotten started!
Posted: 7th September 2010 by Glenda (and Jack) in motivation
Tags: feel distracted, stay focused
How do you stay focused on an activity so that it’s completed with excellence and done on time?
I have a whole file of techniques I’ve created to stay focused–with a few ideas I’ve borrowed from other people’s suggestions.
A whole file of ideas, you ask?
No, I don’t have Attention Deficit Disorder or anything like that. My problem is too many involvements, too many commitments, too many projects, and too many things I like doing. With that kind of brain, no wonder it’s hard to stay focused on anything! It’s constantly fragmented.
So why do I have a whole file of ideas and not just one good one?
- Maybe it’s because I’m a female and never feel just one of anything works all the time.
- Maybe it’s because not all projects can use the same “stay focused” techniques.
- Maybe it’s because I’m not in the mood to do any of them and you’re not going to tell me I have to!
No, but I do still need to get it done.
Here’s one of the simplest ideas I’ve ever devised and yet it’s one that I use the most. No matter how many appointments, commitments, or projects needing to be completed by the end of the day, . . .
- I write on a colorful note card in large marker the one item that I need to be working on or get completed at this moment. I may have a stack of cards with various “one items” of things written on them, but the one card with one item is what I post in front of me at the moment. Somehow seeing that one item keeps me on track and my brain focused.
(When you feel distracted, how do you stay focused? You can tell us below.)
Posted: 31st August 2010 by Glenda (and Jack) in motivation
Tags: feelings, instinct
Sometimes all you want to do is bang that snooze alarm so that it never goes off again. But, you can’t.
Sometimes you want to shop and shop and shop and not worry about how much things cost. But, you don’t.
Sometimes you wish you could go out and party and pretend you’re not married, have kids, and have a job. But, you won’t.
Just as you have to follow through with certain obligations in life whether you feel like it or not, the same can be true on goals you are trying to reach. Some days you may feel like quitting and chucking your whole idea out the window, but those can simply be feelings, not what you should actually do.
The best thing to do is keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep taking one step at a time on whatever it is you want to accomplish. Instinct can be misled by feelings. Keep doing until you definitely know the answer of whether you should keep following one step at a time.
Don’t rely on your feelings. Feelings can be fickle.
(Do you ever have the feeling to just give up? What do you do? Please leave a comment and tell us.)
~ Glenda (gj)
Posted: 25th August 2010 by Glenda (and Jack) in motivation
Never deprive someone of hope; it may be all they have.
Well wishers and do-gooders often try to bring others down to reality, to face the truth, to quit living in a fairy-tale land.
If every inventor or high achiever listened to the naysayers, their accomplishments would never have happened.
Sometimes things don’t go as we’d hoped, but keep that hope firmly in your heart as long as you can.
(Have you had something for which you almost gave up hope, but thankful you didn’t? Please leave your comment.)
~ Glenda (gj)
Posted: 18th August 2010 by Glenda (and Jack) in motivation
Tags: dwelling on the past
No, this doesn’t mean using hindsight. It means are you always looking backward?
How can you make a difference if your thoughts are constantly taken up with things that have already happened?
If the past is all you dwell on, you’ll never get anywhere.
Ever tried walking a mile backwards? Or jogging a mile backwards?
You’ll have the same difficulty reaching goals or getting anywhere in life if your thoughts are stuck in reverse.
The past is past; you can’t change it. Look ahead to change what you can, and become part of a refreshing future.
(Do you think and plan for the future or are you always looking at the past–living your thoughts on what you once wear or on what could have been. Leave a reply we’d love to hear your thoughts.)
Posted: 12th August 2010 by Glenda (and Jack) in motivation
Tags: choices, random thoughts
You have two, core choices in life. These two choices apply to everything: business, goals, activities, relationships, work, school, friends, family. . . .
- You can do what God wants you to do.
- You can do what Satan wants you to do.
There is no gray area. You can’t say, “Well, God knew I meant well” or “God knows I’ll do better next time” or “God knows I was trying.”
You either follow God or you’re not. Yes, everyone slips up and make mistakes. Not a single person is perfect.
You have to trust God and let him lead you in all areas of your life. Satan loves it when you are afraid, when you make excuses, when you rationalize things, when you dilute what God tells you to make life easier. God is either a part of every moment in your life or he’s not.
(I know not everyone agrees with me. What do you think?)
Posted: 3rd August 2010 by Glenda (and Jack) in motivation
Tags: doing your best, perfection
“Doing a thing well is often a waste of time.” – Robert Byrne
How can anyone say this? What about the adage that we all grew up with, “if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing right.” How can you say it’s a waste of time to do something right?
That’s not what the quote said. It said, “is often a waste of time.” Think about it. For everything you do in life, should it require an excellence and exactness to be called doing it right? A silly example but let’s discuss laundry. I’m very particular about laundry, and we won’t talk about how I separate and determine washer and dryer settings and which products to use, etc. I actually do that by rote. But what about the putting away of the laundry? It is true that I like all the towels folded the same way, but should I get out of sorts if someone else doesn’t fold them that way so that my towel cabinet looks horrid when you open that cabinet door? Should I take extra time to make sure all the towels are folded to the exact same degree and have no edges showing? Should I tie a coordinating ribbon around towel and sheet sets like I saw in a Martha Stewart column one day? How much time and focus in life should your towels inside a cabinet deserve?
The towel example is rather silly but the point is, some jobs need to be done. Get them over with. Call it quits. Go on to things in life that count more in the whole scheme of life: a task that will get you a promotion, more time to play with the kids, perfecting your tennis back hand, or studying for a test.
This reminds me of the movie, Sleeping with the Enemy, with Julia Roberts. In the movie, her husband was so exacting that every thing in life, including how cans were lined up in the cabinet had to be 100% perfect according to his standards. Right. Everything in life does not have to be done well.
(Should you do your best on everything or pick and choose? Please leave a comment.)
Posted: 21st July 2010 by Glenda (and Jack) in motivation
Tags: do nothing
“To do nothing is tiresome because you can not stop to take a rest.”
taken from Sept. 29 devotion in the Daily Walk Bible
Haven’t you seen people who are tired all the time yet haven’t done anything but work to try to get out of work?
Posted: 18th July 2010 by Glenda (and Jack) in motivation
Tags: blame, excuses
How many times do you say you weren’t able to do something because of situations or someone else’s actions?
Learn to listen to your own answers and explanations you give for why you didn’t do what you wanted to do.
Listen to your words to know whether circumstances really did impede you doing what you wanted–or were those simply excuses for why you didn’t do something. If you had an earthquake, flood, hurricane, fire, or tornado you probably do have legitimate reasons for why you didn’t get something done.
Be careful of the “blame game” though. It’s always someone else’s fault–not yours. The blame game is one of the best ways to not accomplish what you want to do.
I wish I could say I was pointing fingers at everyone else on this, but unfortunately that wouldn’t be true. I’ve been guilty of the “blame game” so many times I could not possibly count them.
However, once you hear yourself and realize you are simply making excuses and pointing blame, you’ll be far less likely to keep using everything in life as an excuse.
(Do you know anyone who has an excuse for everything not done? No names please but leave your comment below.)
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Posted: 16th July 2010 by Glenda (and Jack) in motivation
Tags: finding time, passion
When you are passionate about something, what do you do about it? Do you wait until it’s totally convenient, or do you carve out niches of time no matter what it takes?
When thoughts of your desired activity swirl in your mind and keep your brain engaged 24/7 (and it will not harm or be destructive to anything or anyone) you must make sacrifices to engage your passion: give up something less important, carve time away from something else (like a lunch hour), lose a little sleep a few nights a week, learn to say no to activities that others can do. . . .
If you are that destined in an area, it might mean that you are the one intended to do it. Whether it’s jewelry making, music, a visual art form, reading, sewing, outdoor activities, starting a business, doing a Bible study, volunteering, if you work on those dreams, you’ll not only be a better person, you have no idea who along the way you may help.
More than likely, the world will be a little bit better place if you listen to your intuition and follow your passion. Don’t feel selfish; you may not be the only person who benefits.